tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post6024656711042016211..comments2023-10-31T09:08:39.682-06:00Comments on Borderline bonkers: Down at the beach...and a meltdownAnna-b-bonkershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11470379679830893275noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-8767341614803368222010-06-12T08:04:03.831-06:002010-06-12T08:04:03.831-06:00Hi there! Long time no talk!
Just wanted you to ...Hi there! Long time no talk! <br />Just wanted you to know that I have those days too... and so do my kids - it is normal!!!! You are normal and so are they! Yesterday the drama that I overreacted to was a screw-type crayon that Camden wouldn't put back together. I have learned in some intense counseling this past year about how all the surfacey issues we face come from the deepest hurts in our hearts (and some hormones preggo!). For example... one of my deepest hurts from youth is 'not being heard - being ignored - not being valued'. So now when Camden doesn't listen to me, those feelings ALL come up again - b/c he's not "hearing" me. Learning to identify my deepest hurts and how they come up again now as an adult has healed me of SO much! You are being TOO hard on yourself!!! I've also learned this past year so much about GRACE!!! Give it to others AND yourself! True, unconditional grace is NOT something I learned growing up. But God is teaching me about it now in big ways... it's ok to mess up, it's gonna happen and it's OK! The desire to not mess up can lead us to perfectionism - something I REALLY struggle with! It puts too high expectations on ourselves and everyone around us. God brings to my mind all the grace He's poured on me, when I really think about it, it's A LOT! So I can POUR that on myself and others too. Those are my good days - when I can lavish God's grace on myself and everyone around me. But TRUST ME - I have HORRIBLE DAYS TOO!!!! I hate those days - but have to give myself God's grace for even those. I love you and pray for you and think about you all the time - wish we were closer and could hang out!!! Love,<br />Your Cousin KimKimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-16214101625156282932010-06-04T22:02:19.267-06:002010-06-04T22:02:19.267-06:00Oh sweet Anna! You are such an amazing mother!! ...Oh sweet Anna! You are such an amazing mother!! You may stress about some things, but you are heart-training your children and that is more important than ANYTHING!<br /><br />I would love to see you before we take off to Saskatoon. Will text you this week. :)<br /><br />xoxoxoJen Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05948927699854039832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-60135948198063138692010-06-02T11:54:41.080-06:002010-06-02T11:54:41.080-06:00Oh, Anna. I would hug you if I could, it sounds li...Oh, Anna. I would hug you if I could, it sounds like you need a hug and a pat on the back and to hear that you're a good mom who loves her kids, doing the best she can at a hormonal, stressful time! :-)<br /><br />Reading about Ethan's breakdown, I was totally thinking, "Sounds like a TIRED kid and a TIRED, distracted mom." Sometimes kids as young as Ethan need something but they don't have the emotional/verbal knowledge to tell us what, especially when they're tired, so they just freak out and scream and cry. I've been there before, and I know how frustrating that is! Only when I've been there, I only had one kid to deal with, and you had three! I think you handled it exactly right. You apologized for the yelling that you were feeling bad about, and you talked calmly to Ethan why you were upset and why his behavior was wrong. <br /><br />You know, it actually HELPS kids when adults admit their mistakes and apologize for them, because that way they are learning that even grown-ups make mistakes, and that it's okay to admit you're wrong and apologize. Some kids never see adults do that and they grow up with a warped idea of how to behave towards others, you know?<br /><br />I don't know enough about Ethan to say yes or no to the Autism spectrum thing, but I do know enough about Autism (I have a nephew who is on the severe end of the spectrum, and a friend whose little boy is on the mild end) to know that it is NOT the end of the world. It's just a label to help you understand your child and know how to raise him better. <br /><br />I'll be praying for you today, my dear! Love to you.bethany actuallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02312893629556812242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-18700437947319570022010-06-02T10:52:58.877-06:002010-06-02T10:52:58.877-06:00We all have days like that, I promise, and I wish ...We all have days like that, I promise, and I wish I could tell you that it would get better but it's just like anything else-sometimes it is great and sometimes it sucks and it's all just part of the deal, you know? I send you hugs today, though, and prayers.Korihttp://seekorirant.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-48368538796222711242010-06-02T09:16:12.939-06:002010-06-02T09:16:12.939-06:00Parenting is wonderful...with moments of sheer hor...Parenting is wonderful...with moments of sheer horror. That's crazy mommy life for you! <br />Reading the post, I didn't think "autism" with Ethan, just "over-tired" - that's a hard time of day in our house.Angela Fehrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14348875452757012357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-40853227801658597622010-06-02T07:56:45.865-06:002010-06-02T07:56:45.865-06:00Sounds like many a day in my house. And I did wond...Sounds like many a day in my house. And I did wonder as I read if Ethan was like my Myles with a learning difference. Here's a little hug for the future my Myles is amazing, no drugs for his ADHD. Learn and read about the autism, and then raise your boy with knowledge and prayer and rejoice in the difference with which God made him. He's not broken. He's unique.Sombrahttp://Www.homeschoolblogger.com/morelittlewilsonsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578794009671354856.post-4165858719593707692010-06-02T07:47:26.300-06:002010-06-02T07:47:26.300-06:00Sounds like a typical day for a stay at home mom! ...Sounds like a typical day for a stay at home mom! A good majority of us don't currently have the excuse of extra pregnental hormons!!<br />Just enjoy the good when it's good and try to be posative in the tougher times. Tears release needed hormons too, so a regular cry-fest is no big deal. You are a wonderfully great and blessed mom!<br />End supportive and encourageing to the rest of moms too, Thanks! BrandieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com